The Past is in the Past…


Let it go.

I think we can all learn something from this wonderful Frozen song (that everyone in the world knows just about every lyric to).

Letting go and moving on can be a terribly difficult thing to do. Whether it’s a relationship or a traumatic childhood incident or something even worse, sometimes it’s just better to let it go. That doesn’t mean you need to forget it– that may be impossible– but don’t let it hold you back.

Don’t be scared to go on with your life and find your happiness. You deserve that.

Things happen to us that really suck (for lack of better terms). At the time, we wonder how in the world we are going to move on or even survive… But we do. And we come out stronger on the other side. We all feel like giving up sometimes, but you truly show strength when you continue your journey instead of surrendering.

For me, I have overcame quite a few obstacles from my childhood. A lot of unnecessary heartbreak happened early on in my life. But you know what? I have learned from it. I experienced some things I would never wish on any children, and I believe I will one day be a better parent because of it. I believe I have repressed a lot of childhood memories, but of the ones I do recall, I have learned something valuable from.

So, just because you “let it go” doesn’t mean you forget the relationship/event/situation, it means you learn from it and move on.

Be a better and stronger person because of it.


Growing Up is Totally Overrated…

When I was younger, I always wished I was older. Actually, for the last, let’s say 10-15 years, I constantly wished I could be a “grown-up”, be out of high school, be out of college, be married, have a big-girl job–you get the point. I’m pretty sure I thought the minute I hit that adult status, I would have an awesome life and that everything about life would make sense. I have literally spent so much time wishing I was in a different place in my life. Even now I find myself wishing I had it all together. I’m sure this is relatively normal for a post-college 20-something, but it’s still really frustrating.

I am really trying to focus on where I am right now, not on my ideal of where I should be.

It’s really tough though. Wouldn’t it be so great if we could just fast forward to that perfect time in our life? Oh wait, that doesn’t exist. Things will never be “picture perfect” like all of the Disney movies’ happily ever after endings. It’s life. It’s super-wonderful at times and it sucks at other times. You have to just learn to be happy with where you are in life.

Be grateful for the time you have on this earth. Show the people who you love that you love them. Laugh as loud as you possibly can. Do not dwell on the negative aspects of your life. I have been called negative one too many times (I always prefer to think of myself as a “realist”, but I’m beginning to think that’s just a toned-down version of “party pooper”). I sometimes struggle with finding the good in a lot of situations. I should feel blessed for all of the people I have in my life and all of the many great ridiculously amazing opportunities I have been given. I am giving myself a challenge to look for the best in every situation. This is going to be tough, but it will be so worth it. If you are reading this, I also encourage you to challenge yourself with this. When you get home, before you begin telling your significant other, parent, friend, etc. the bad parts of your day, say something positive that happened during the day. Make a conscious effort to acknowledge that the entire day wasn’t bad, and think about a time that made you laugh, smile, or just be happy to be alive.

I think every situation can be affected by the way you percieve it. You might be having the worst day you could possibly imagine, but if you focus on something positive (even if it’s the super-fantastic food you ate for lunch), you will feel better. Don’t focus on the bad; life if going to go on–regardless if you are miserable or if you are happy. You might as well smile and make the best of whatever situation you are in.

I think this whole “growing up” thing has its advantages. I mean, sure, I might have bills and responsibilities, but there are also some pretty cool things. I just bought my first brand new car (on my own!), I have my own apartment (that I pay for by myself), and I have a family that would bail me out of any crappy situation I got in if at all possible (within reason). Find your happiness in this crazy, non-perfect world!

It is pouring down rain in Alabama right now, which reminds me of a cliche, yet very appropriate, quote…

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”



Life As I Know It

Hi! I’ve decided to try this whole “blogging” thing. Hope it doesn’t bore you to death…

So I’ve been thinking about a lot of things lately about life and things I’ve learned in this journey.

I have a bad habit of comparing where I am in life with where all of my peers are. Everyone I know (especially friends from high school) are getting married and having babies, and I’m not. I’m focused on my career and myself right now. I’m not ready to be a wifey or a mommy right now. I can’t even decide what I want to eat for dinner– how the heck can I be a mother? Of course, if some miracle happened and I became one, I would handle it.

I get asked when I am going to get married on a weekly basis. Yes, I have been together with my boyfriend for a long time. Yes, I love him. Yes, I know I’m not getting any younger. You get the point– it gets annoying. I personally think I’m being smart about things– I want to know, without a doubt, that I should get married. Not because everyone thinks I should. When I get married I plan on being married for the next 50+ years (forever), so I don’t think I should even relatively second guess myself.

As far as kids go, I definitely want to be married first, so that’s not even in the picture right now. I do want at least one ONE day, but I’m only 24.

Having a stable life is important to me before kids come along. I want to be able to give my kids everything I had growing up and a stable life. And I do not want them to have to go through the divorce of their parents (or worse) like I had to. Right now I have a good job, but it’s my first year here so I want to make sure it lasts and that I can move up before I make any extreme life altering decisions.

So, after being asked this 5,000 times since I graduated college, I have come up with an idea: stop putting time frames on everything. Stop worrying about where everyone else is in life. Stop focusing on having kids and getting married before so-and-so and live how you want to. If you aren’t ready, listen to your heart and your brain and know when to choose one over the other. Stop living based on what you should be doing when, and focus on just living now.

I vow to take my own advice and stop putting a time limit on my life. Yes, I won’t live forever, but I am going to enjoy the time I do have without worrying if I am on everyone else’s life track.

You should make this promise, too. 🙂