Your Legacy

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If you were to leave this earth tomorrow, what would you hope people would say about you and the life you lived? How would they describe you?

Would they say you were a wonderful person, who gave unselfishly and loved everyone or would there be an awkward silence while they try to pick their brain to think of something nice to say about you?

I hope it’s the first. And I hope you earned those words honestly.

People say you shouldn’t care what others think; and yes, this is true to an extent. However, I know that I want people to think I am a good person who they can rely on in a time of need. I want them to know that I care about our relationship and that they mean a lot to me.

Show people you care while you have time. Give them your undivided attention; put your cell phone down, get off Facebook, and look at the person who is speaking to you. Show them that their thoughts matter to you. Be the person who they can turn to when they are having a bad day or just want to talk to someone.

I hope I have been this type of person thus far. I hope the people in my life know how much they mean to me. I hope, when I’m gone, people talk about how loving I was and that I would have done anything for them… and I hope they really mean it.

Be sincere in your relationships throughout your life. They are more important than you may realize.

Strive to show people you care about them and that you are present in your relationships. Don’t be that person who is pretending to listen while you text under the table.

More than anything else, love unconditionally. Do not put limits on your love and gratitude. Give more than you take and be the person who people can always rely on. Be the type of person you would want to be friends with.

Don’t hold grudges. There is not enough time in your life to hold grudges. Even if you can’t forget something completely, forgive the person. Life is too short to be miserable. You will feel better in the end if you just let it go. Of course, sometimes there are things that you can’t let go, and that’s okay too. Sometimes it’s best to let negative people go and move on with your life.

Ask yourself these questions:

Am I the type of friend I would want to have?
How will people remember me once I’m gone?

If you can answer these in a positive manner, keep up the good work. You are on your way to leaving a great legacy.
If you can’t answer these in the best way, work on becoming the type of person you know you should be. Be a person who conveys love, gratitude, loyalty, and happiness every day. You can do it; don’t give up until you get to where you know you should be.

 

April

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The Great Debate

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Roll Tide or War Eagle?
Don’t say you don’t care which team wins– that’s the ultimate sin when you’re from Alabama.

Growing up, my entire family was Alabama fans. I grew up yelling, “Roll Tide!” I never understood the art of football; I just knew you wanted to get the ball between the big stick thing. So, when I got older and still didn’t understand the sport, I didn’t watch the games. This is like an abomination.
When I hit 18, I started dating this guy who was an Auburn fan, so I ended up watching all of the Auburn games with him and his family. My family was beyond disgusted. They loved the guy, but I remember one time he showed up at my family’s Christmas in an Auburn shirt– you would have thought it was the apocalypse. Oh, and he bought me an Auburn shirt… that I actually wore. My sister refused to walk next to me if I had it on. Yeah, this hatred actually exists in Alabama.
Eventually though, we broke up, and I got together with a “real man” aka an Alabama fan. He is one of THE biggest Alabama fans I have ever seen. He believes his Alabama hats go with every outfit, no matter what the occasion is.

You can imagine how horrified he was to know I was “an Auburn fan” for two years. Honestly, I think he was more upset about this than if he had found out I was a leper being exiled to Nantucket. He immediately began buying me Alabama attire and making me watch every game with him.
One day, we decided it was time to get rid of the dreaded Auburn shirt. We decided to have a bonfire… and he burned the shirt. I’m sure some people are still cursing our names for this heinous act. Of course I got pictures!

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My boyfriend is something. Don’t get him talking about Alabama and Auburn because I promise you, someone is going to end up with hurt feelings, and more than likely it isn’t going to be him.

Here’s some friendly advice from someone who has experienced the effects of not taking sides:

Don’t plan on moving to Alabama without choosing a side.
Don’t be a “house divided”. Pick a side or move to Canada.
Don’t plan on moving here being a Tennessee or LSU fan unless you love having people hate you. One time I happened to have my nails painted purple right before the Alabama v. LSU game, and my boyfriend said I couldn’t come over until I took the nail polish off (it was like the perfect LSU purple in his defense).
Also, be prepared to be asked who you root for as soon as you meet anyone. I was asked this on the first day of my last two jobs by my bosses. I made the mistake of saying “Oh, it doesn’t matter to me” one time and didn’t think I’d ever live it down.

Now of course, I’m sure I’m not speaking for every Alabamian. I’m just showing the rivalry from my perspective and my experiences. Yes, there are obnoxious Alabama fans andAuburn fans (and every other team); and this is all said in a friendly spirit 🙂

So now that I’ve decided I look better in red, I plan on staying true to my upbringing as a Roll Tide fan. And I do understand the sport a little more now, thanks to my boyfriend.

April
Oh yeah, roll tide.